SCOTUS rules on DOMA and Prop 8

This morning the Supreme Court of the United States ruled (5-4) that the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA)  is unconstitutional and violates the 5th Amendment.  Additionally, the Supreme Court dismissed California’s controversial Proposition 8, citing proponents lacked standing – ultimately returning freedom to marry to the state of California.

This is a watershed moment and as Rev. Betsy Happel said when I interviewed her in March:  “We’re never going back.”  We are living history and today especially, I am proud to be an American.  Every American deserves an equal right to pursue happiness – regardless of their sexual orientation – because after all, we are all equal. I applaud the Supreme Court – this is a great day for the LGBT movement – and for America herself.

Read “Never Going Back: The Fight for Marriage Equality”

Best Body 2013: It’s “Bobby-time”

Jake Gyllenhaal and Anne HathawayIt’s no secret that over the past decade I’ve really struggled to attain the body I desire.

Last year I made great strides in the right direction and lost 30 pounds from January 16-March 15.  I managed to keep that weight off – until this most recent winter (November-April) when I gained 20 pounds back.  Le sigh.

Here’s what I did right:  I monitored my daily caloric intake, ate healthier foods, and exercised regularly.  I began with Trish Stratus’ 30-Day Challenge and parlayed that success into working with my fitness trainer Nate Jones.  I then fused Trish and Nate’s exercises and added cardio 3-4 times per week.  The results were coming in exactly how I wanted them to!  Then, in August, I started playing Tennis – and by October, my game had grown!  I felt more athletic and was performing at the best level of my life!

During this time, I was well-rested, my skin was healthier, I had a ton of energy, and all those minor, daily aches and pains were gone.  I even posted a personal best ever mile time – I ran that thing in 7 minutes and 45 seconds (and all I wanted to do was run it in 8 minutes, like I had when I was 6, twenty years prior!).

Here’s where I went wrong: It was around October when I really began to slip.  I was attending class 5 days per week and working, which meant I was eating late sometimes, making wrong food choices other times, and eating out the rest of the time.  Additionally, I thought playing tennis would offset my poor decision-making.  Obviously, I was wrong.  Throughout the holiday season, I ate more and exercised way less than I should have.  In fact, from November to February, my exercise log shows ONE cardio session! ONE!  What the hell was I doing (or not doing rather)?

Then it happened.  My final semester of grad. school.  What did that entail? Syrupy coffee drinks – and lots of them.  Eating out (fast food) every single Tuesday and Thursday.  No exercise.  Tons of writing (which meant I was sitting a lot!).  And when I wasn’t writing/doing homework, I was catching up on my favorite TV shows (all 50,000 of them – damn compelling television!).

So this was the situation:  Sleep.  Eat.  Homework.  Eat Out.  Work.  Homework.  Eat Out.  Coffee x 3,000.  Sleep.  You get the idea.

man shelf

The Re-Focus:  Two weeks after graduation I went to put on a pair of pants – they didn’t fit.  I tried on all 4 pairs of shorts – they didn’t fit.  So I have/had two pairs of jeans that fit and athletic shorts… great wardrobe, right?  The shirts fit a little tighter and this Saturn belt (that’s what I’ve named my mid-section fat roll) was jiggly! I was NEVER jiggly before! EVER!

I decided then, enough is enough.  I’m putting an end to this struggle! I’m getting my ideal body – and the best body of my entire life!

It’s been 3 weeks since this “re-focus,” and I’ve exercised irregularly.  Eaten out once or twice and have cut coffee down to just weekend mornings (instead of every single day!).  I’ve been stocking up on fresh veggies and fruits, bought healthy crunchy snacks (I love my Triscuit crackers!), bought better cereals, quit eating at work (Olive Garden), etc. etc.  Since then, I’ve lost 5 pounds.

But this is a far-cry from where I’m going…

absThe Goal:  People tell me I’m cute – which is a nice sentiment, but dammit, I want people to look at me – their jaw drop to the floor and saliva to flow like Niagra Falls! I want to be sexy – desirable – HOT!  I want to have a great (as Tyra Banks would say) “Booty-Tooch.” I want to transform my “Moobs” (man boobs) into a Man Shelf.  I want visible abs.  I want sexy and defined legs (I already have great ankles!).  And finally, I wanna actually be able to show up to a gun show and flash a couple guns (biceps)! I want to look how I’ve never looked before.  I want a complete transformation.

Years ago, when I started attending school (for acting), I kept hearing the same message:  Your body is your tool.

Now, here I am, many (and I mean many) years later – I’m finished with grad. school and I want my life to begin.  My body is my tool. My body is my temple – and dammit, I want to have a nice temple!

That said, let me break it down (these are the mini-goals):

July 1:  Blog about where we are:  Measurements, weigh-in AND Begin a “Stratusphere 30-Day Challenge”

July 15:  Blog about where we are: Weigh-in AND successes/struggles.  Run a mile in 9 minutes (ideal weight loss of 6-8 pounds)

August 1: Blog about where we are:  Measurements, weigh-in AND Run a mile in 8:15.

August 15:  Blog about where we are:  Weigh-in AND successes/struggles (ideal weight loss of 6-8 pounds)

September 1:  Blog about where we are: Measurements, weigh-in AND Run a mile in 7:50.

Major Goal #1 (by Sept. 1):  Run 1 mile in 7:50; Total Weight Loss of 16 pounds

Then we’ll go from there… time to get busy.  Wish me luck.  Your support will only inspire me on this life-changing journey that I’m getting right this time around… you’ll see.  I promise.

NOTE:  I chose this photo of Jake Gyllenhaal from the movie “Jarhead” because this is the body shape I am aiming for.  Lean, defined, and toned – and because he’s my favorite actor – and who better to look to than one of your role models?  Sorry Trish, I’d look to you – but it’s just not possible for me to have your figure, haha!  

Radio Bobby: Top 5 New Music Releases (6/24)

In a new feature, I present to you RADIO BOBBY: TOP 5 NEW MUSIC RELEASES!

The purpose of this feature will be for me to share with you all what I’ll be enjoying on my radio – this week – and likely for the rest of the month or two or three …. or twelve, you get the idea.  I usually post “status updates” on Facebook that contain my Weekly Top 5 – so I figured, why not turn this into a feature.  The #1 Pick of the Week will contain my opinion of the song, #2 will have a one-sentence description.  3-5 will be listed. Click the links to be connected to iTunes! 

Without any further delay, here are the Top 5 New Music Release for the week of June 24, 2013:

1.  “Come With Me” – Ricky Martin (tie) – Ricky Martin’s new single is sexy and steamy – just in time for summer.  With lyrics like: Your finger’s on my trigger – you play it like a winner… I got you now – I’m gonna take you to the edge tonight… I’ll show you how, so won’t you come with me tonight?” – how can you not deny its sex appeal.  Saucy lyrics play over a dance-inducing background.  Go with Ricky to the edge tonight!

1.  “Here’s The Thing” – Javier Dunn (tie) – If you love a great vocal – like Nate Ruess or Robin Thicke, then you’ll love this song from Javier Dunn’s new album “Trails.”  Dunn’s vocal and the song’s 80’s vibe lend themselves greatly to an evening of relaxation – perhaps just lying with your significant other on top of the sheets – or sitting under the stars outside with a nice gentle breeze – or cruising through the city with your windows down – great song!

2. “Take Me Away” – Leslie Grace – A nice up-tempo dance track from Latin artist Leslie Grace.

3. “Sun Up Sun Down” – Brook White f. Christian Campbell

4. “Drunk Last Night” – Eli Young Band

5. “Bad” – Wale f. Rihanna

Hope you all enjoy these selections.  Feedback is always welcome in the comments section and be sure to watch Ricky Martin perform “Come With Me” on The Voice (Australia)!

World War Z (review)

Blitz Review:  Action-packed and suspenseful.  Brad Pitt does an amazing job as “Gerry Lane.”  Weaker third-act and questionable ending, but overall really good and perfect release for summer.  Hope it makes the money, so we can have a sequel.  Awesome instrumental by Muse (“Isolated System”) included! Grade:  A- 

See my full WORLD WAR Z review on AsSeenBy

WWE Payback (review)

Quick Results:

1.  Sheamus def. Damien Sandow (pre-show match)

2. Triple Threat – Intercontinental Championship:  Curtis Axel def. Wade Barrett and The Miz to become the NEW Intercontinental Champion (pinfall)

3.  Diva’s Championship:  AJ Lee def. Kaitlyn to become the NEW Diva’s Champion (submission)

4. United States Championship:  Dean Ambrose def. Kane to retain (count-out)

5. World Heavyweight Championship:  Alberto Del Rio def. Dolph Ziggler to become the NEW World Champion (pinfall)

6. CM Punk def. Chris Jericho (pinfall)

7. Tag Team Championships:  The Shield def. Randy Orton and Daniel Bryan to retain (pinfall)

8. WWE Championship:  John Cena def. Ryback to retain (Ryback sent away in ambulance)

PROMO:  Mark Henry returns on RAW

PROMO:  The Wyatt Family

PROMO:  Rob Van Dam to return to WWE at Money in the Bank next month!

Overall Show Rating: 4.5/5

There were some really great moments on the show.  The Diva’s Championship match was one of the best Diva’s matches I’ve seen in a while – great work by Kaitlyn and AJ Lee!  Alberto Del Rio was highly aggressive during the World Championship match.  Lots of near falls and hard-hitting action.  Heel turn by Del Rio … worked because by the end of this match, I wanted to punch him! Poor Ziggler.  CM Punk made a triumphant return – the crowd was CRAZY for him!!! Great match by Punk-Jericho.

Match of the Night:  Kaitlyn vs. AJ Lee or CM Punk vs. Chris Jericho or Del Rio vs. Ziggler (three-way tie)

Man of Steel (review)

Man of Steel - Henry CavillBlitz Review:  Henry Cavill is the best Superman ever! Zack Snyder’s direction makes this a one-of-a-kind visual Superman experience.  It’s gorgeous and has a fantastic Hans Zimmer score and some awesome sound mixing.  Story could have been condensed or expanded – and maybe could have been a little more dramatic.

Click here for my full review of “Man of Steel”

Grade: A-